Let Your Alter Ego Come Out to Play During Sex

Fantasising during sex might or might not be a bad thing

It is happening again. Everything is fine, I am onto my third orgasm and the sex is just… great. And yet I catch myself gazing away with eyes closed, somewhere above the ceiling, and I am not where I want to be, and I am not where I am supposed to be.

I am dissociating from what I feel, I shut my eyes tight and I am thinking about something else — or to be more precise something else with someone else.

My partner is here. He is doing everything to give me a good time and in fairness, he does.

But it feels bad that I want more, it feels that I always want more, and just what I have is not enough — no matter the orgasms, no matter how I like his body on and in my body… my mind wanders to a different scene, and as much as it is turning me on, I feel awful about it. And this doesn’t help the sensations. My motions become mechanical and despite all the pleasure my guilty self wants it to be over.

In my mind, I am completely not in charge. I am taken and I am used and while his movements are not really gentle, I still want it to be rougher, I want him to grab me and pull my hair.

I nod a little nervously, and I start to wonder what gave me away. I am enjoying what we are doing, so why am I carried away by these thoughts of submission, by this woman who is not really me — yet it feels that she is more me than I can ever become?

In the majority of cases, the admission of these fantasies came with a lot of guilt and frustration — as the participants perceived it to be failing to stay in the moment and in some cases even a kind of mental cheating too.

As it is clear from the data, fantasising during sex is more common than it seems — and depending on the reason for fantasising it can be a problem, or it can add another erotic element to the sexual experience.

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