That Moment You Realize Your Job Has Become a Toxic Relationship

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The similarities are glaring now that I’ve made the connection.

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The 5th anniversary of my “escape” from my abusive relationship was a few days ago, and I celebrated by contemplating everything I learned from it, as well as how I’ve grown since then. I still have the occasional night terror, but they occur less frequently as time goes on, and I’ve certainly dodged some bullets in my dating life since then.

Then my train of thought derailed (as it tends to do), and I started thinking about work and the different personalities I spend 8+ hours a day crammed into a room with. Slowly, I started drawing some unnerving lines between the two.

Somehow, dispatch seems to attract people with the mindset of “I’m not mean, I’m just telling you all about what’s wrong with you and how you function, so you’re welcome” and they label their bullying as brutal honesty. They’re narcissistic enough to try and pass off their unnecessary evaluations of your character and competency as an employee, as wisdom and advice you should be grateful to receive. They’re just trying to help you fix what’s wrong with yourself!

Just like an abusive significant other will search for someone they perceive as easy to intimidate, those same personalities in the office also gravitate toward the people who shy away from confrontation. Some co-workers are on the opposite end of the spectrum and will do whatever they can to placate the louder voices in the room. They’ll play the role of doting best friend to keep the bullies happy, then do nothing but complain once the offender is out of earshot. They’ve learned that it’s easier to smile and nod rather than stand their ground, and become more concerned with keeping the…

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