Why Do Some People Have Enemies?

“When there’s no enemy within, the enemy without can’t do you no harm.”

This morning I woke up and like most mornings, I took my phone to scroll through Instagram. I know, it’s a bad habit but I’m sure I’m not the only one.

While on Instagram I was checking through some stories and I found a couple of girls posting the same screenshot of some other girl’s story. And this is what it said;

And I started thinking, why do people have enemies? Why do people talk behind each other’s back? Why do people hate each other? WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS WORLD? NO, WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?AAAHHHHHHHHHH.

This is what I came up with.

I remember when I used to be very judgemental. I was a dick. A real douchebag. I mean, I thought I was funny, making jokes about everyone around me. But in reality, no one though I was funny. Everyone just knew me as a dick, and I was so delusional, I thought they were saying it for fun too! But no seriously, they were telling the truth.

Back then my mind was so restless. I couldn’t stop thinking whatsoever. I was always labeling and judging everyone and everything around me. Most of the time in a negative sense. Now I didn’t really had enemies and I wasn’t really the gossiping type. But I do had a big ego. (and I still have.)

I was always in a state of tension, almost anxiety. It came out of a place of deep insecurity and the lack of accepting myself. Every time someone came into my range, I immediately was checking if he or she was friend or foe. I was always in a fight or flight mode, mentally. And when my ego got threatened. It kicked into full gear.

When a person seemed to do better than me. It started to see only the negative of that person. I started to be skeptical, instantly disliking him. It was my insecurity. My ego desperately needed a sense of pride and superiority. I just wanted to feel better than others. So I was constantly comparing myself to others.

Now enough talking about myself, the point is, I had serious mental issues. And the disturbing truth is, many people have the same kind of issues, and we don’t even know we have it. I know I didn’t knew, until I got some life changing advice from a great teacher of mine. (And some spiritual books too.)

Yeah let’s compare ourselves to others and see how messed up they are so we can feel better than them, completely unaware of our own insanity!

No. This is purely scientific. For educational purposes only.

Now why do people have enemies? Let’s analyse the patterns. There are many people that have enemies or, people who tend to hate other people or even like to “feel better” than others. I mean, we all do like to do better than others, don’t we? It would be stupid to love doing worse than others. But the opposite is even more catastrophic if it’s out of insecurity or a desperate need for preserving your sense of pride.

Now why are people like that? Well it’s in human’s nature, our ego loves pain and drama, our unconscious false personalities love it. But the truth is, it all comes from a deep sense of insecurity, and all insecurities are based in fear. The problem can be a lack of self-acceptance, self-love which all result in a lack of self-confidence.

If you’re familiar with Ekhart Tolle’s work, you’re also familiar with the ego and so on. If you don’t, well basically, the ego is a false identity we give ourselves. It’s a story we tell ourselves. It’s what we THINK we are. But what you THINK you are, is not who you truly are.

What you think are mere thoughts, mere strings of words, a description of who you are. But not you, the real deep down you. Realize that for a moment. Whatever you think yourself to be, you’re much more than that. You’re beyond what any human mind can conceive. We all are. Everything is.

So it’s because people haven’t fully accepted themselves or rather, realized themselves for who and what they are. They haven’t realized the unity within all and everything that exists. They are still a victim of a world. They are constantly or almost constantly on the look out, ready to be in a fight or flight reaction to other people.

Comparing themselves to others, judging everything and everyone around them. Most of the people in today’s modern society are in a constant state of insecurity and anxiety. To cover that up, we try to protect our sense of self, our identity. We act like something we’re not. We’re trying to conform to an idea of ourselves. In the hope to be liked and accepted by others. We act confident, but do we feel confident? No.

What we think ourselves gives us a sense of self-worth, a sense of confidence. But it’s a fake kind of confidence. It’s build on a false identity that can easily he threatened and crushed. It’s a very a weak foundation. When someone touches your pride, you go wild. You’re triggered. You identify yourself with a certain identity and when someone tries to crush that identity, you go into flight or fight. The point is, this is the opposite of a truly confident person. And those who try to crush you, are even more insecure.

A true confident person doesn’t compare himself. He or she rises above the ego games, the personality games, the pride games. They don’t need to talk others down. Instead they lift everyone up. They and need validation from others, they don’t need to feel better than others. They realize that the only person that they need acceptance from is themselves. They prioritise how they feel and their peace of mind above all else.

So from now on, if you catch yourself comparing yourself to others, trying to gain a sense of superiority or trying to protect your sense of pride. Remember this.

And read the life changing advice a great teacher once told me.

Here it comes. Whenever you catch yourself doing any of the above, simply breathe.

Yeah just breathe. Relax all your thoughts and ideas. Relax your whole body. And just be alive.

Breathe and let go. That’s all.

HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE? IS IT REALLY THAT SIMPLE?

Yeah it is, your breath has the power to change your complete state of being. It can alter your physiology at any moment. The way you breathe determines if you’re anxious or peaceful.

Most important of all, it has the power to relax all your thoughts and clear your head. Making you realize that you’re not what you think you are. You are not an idea. You’re not your name. You’re not who you describe yourself to be. So instead of comparing your false idea of yourself to other people’s false ideas you have of them, and living your life like an insane person, completely lost in mental delusions, just breathe and let go. Just be. Be alive. Think less and feel more. Live more.

Feel the peace coming through you. Feel how all your muscles relax by simply taking a deep breath. Feel the clouds of thought around your head clear up. This is how you resolve the enemy within. Your own false identity.

That’s how true confidence is built. By mastering the mind, by realising what and who you truly are and gaining the power to see through illusion. To See the magnificence and the beauty of everything and everyone. Not in words and labels, not in concepts. But by seeing through your heart and soul.

Imagine a world where everyone is able to accept themselves fully. Be in that peaceful state. No longer needing to feel better than others, no longer comparing, no longer judging. But all uniting. What if we all could see past the personalities and connect on a deeper level with each other?

What if we could all live together, happy and peacefully? Is it too idealistic?

Well then imagine your own life where you actually have the power to make a change. Take control of your mind and master your State of Being.

Starting to accept yourself fully and choosing to feel truly confident, every moment of your life. Imagine your life surrounded by these like minded beings. Who you can harmonize with. Connect with them on a deeper level. Truly being soul mates.

Now I'm telling you it's all possible and it all starts with you.

Oh yeah, quick note. Breathe through your stomach. That way you can breathe deeper while relaxing your chest muscles.

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